What To Do When You’re Not Sure What To Do
There comes the point for everyone when we hit a wall. A new experience leaves us unsure about what to do next. Maybe we know what to do, but we do not know how to do it. It could be that we have no idea what to do next. When that happens, it’s time to ask for help.
For some, asking for help is hard. We view it as weak. Our imposter syndrome kicks in, telling us that if we deserved to own and run our own business that we would not need help. We need to remember that the longer we go without asking for the assistance we need, the longer we hold ourselves back. Do you know who never needs help? People who are not doing anything difficult. You are trying something hard. Success is always within reach if you allow yourself to ask for help.
The community and network you have formed includes people who know how to do what you want to do. As you collect these talents in your network, make those relationships more concrete by asking for help. Your willingness to say, “I don’t know,” will provoke respect. Those ahead of you in the growth of their businesses will see that you are serious. Many people play with the notion of being an entrepreneur. You intend to win this game. Others playing it will welcome you to their ranks when you ask for help.
Perhaps there is training available, such as the training offered by Griffin Growth Labs. Any education you collect strengthens your entrepreneurial muscles. You become more powerful and more likely to succeed as you continue to learn throughout your life as a business owner. Reading articles like this one is a form of asking for help, also, because you are learning something with each read.
Knowing what you need help with makes asking much less complicated. Take the time to define the sticking point you face. What holds you up right now? Is there anyone you have met so far that might have dealt with such an issue in the past? Make that phone call. At the networking event, ask if you can buy that person lunch soon to get their take on a problem you have. Send a brief email to a potential guide and discover how often they are willing to respond. Do not do any of this, however, until you know what you need to ask. Doing otherwise wastes your time and theirs.
Avoid the mistake of seeing the help you receive as a debt. You live in a world of scratching each other’s backs. Someone does you a favor by providing the support you needed. You do them a favor of some kind later. Barter is vital to business. Be excited about the opportunity to be useful to someone else in the future.
Another reason to ask for help is validation. Think of how it will feel to know that a fellow business owner sees you as “worth it.” No matter how robust our self-esteem is, we all find a collection of validating experiences helpful. When that person you’ve approached for help says, “yes,” you can feel great that they see you as part of the gang.
One of the best people to ask for help might be your competition. Reaching out with a message of respect can bring you together. When the person you compete with agrees to help out, you can leverage that new connection. You can find ways to collaborate, strengthening both of your positions. Entrepreneurship often feels like the Hunger Games, but it is more like American Ninja Warrior when it works best. Each business owner sincerely roots for the others while fighting to win at the same time. Build those bridges and become a leader in your industry.
Asking for help feels hard. Sometimes it can feel wrong. The ask requires humility, which always hurts a little when it grows. Take the plunge. Identify your specific area of need and ask for help. You’ll feel good about resolving an issue while finding yourself on firmer footing in your business relationships. Win-win situations like that are priceless.